For many families, Halloween is a time for fun, costumes, and trick-or-treating. But for divorced or separated parents, the holiday can be scary and also bring unexpected tension over parenting time and scheduling. In places like Beverly, Massachusetts and Salem, Massachusetts—where Halloween festivities can be especially lively—planning ahead is key to keeping the night focused on your children, not disputes.

1. Start the Conversation Early

Halloween may seem like a “minor” holiday, but it often holds a lot of emotional weight for kids. Parents should talk well in advance about who will handle costumes, school parties, and trick-or-treating. Clear communication and expectations can help avoid misunderstandings—especially if the parenting plan doesn’t spell out Halloween specifically. If your custody agreement alternates holidays or follows a set schedule, confirm how that applies to Halloween night. If it’s not included, consider drafting a temporary agreement for this year.

2. Keep the Focus on the Kids

It’s easy for parents to get caught up in “fairness,” but Halloween is about your children’s experience. Kids often want both parents to share in the fun, and when possible, joint participation—such as trick-or-treating together for part of the evening—can make the night memorable. If that’s not realistic, create a plan that prioritizes your child’s enjoyment and minimizes stress. Don’t force the kids to be in the car so things can be equal for both parents. There should be some flexibility on both sides. 

3. Be Flexible with Schedules

In areas like Beverly and nearby Salem, many families attend parades, school events, and community festivals. If Halloween falls on a school night, consider adjusting pickup and drop-off times or splitting the evening so each parent can participate in different parts of the celebration. A small compromise can go a long way toward preventing larger conflicts.

4. Put It in Writing When Needed

Even if things are amicable, putting the Halloween plan in writing—whether through text, email, or a shared calendar—can help avoid last-minute confusion. If there’s a history of disputes, consider temporarily modifying your parenting plan with the help of your attorney or mediator. Having clarity in advance protects both parents and kids from unnecessary stress.

Tips for a Smooth Halloween Co-parenting Plan

• Plan early: Confirm the schedule and expectations at least two weeks ahead.
  
• Coordinate costumes: Avoid duplicate purchases and ensure both parents are on the same page.
  
• Share the moment: Exchange photos so both parents feel included, even if they can’t both attend.
  
• Be flexible: Remember the goal is to make it special for your child, not to “win” the holiday.
  

Document agreements: A written plan helps prevent miscommunication and last-minute changes.

Fleischer Law Solutions, has experience working with high conflict custody issues.  Contact Atty Robin Fleischer for a complimentary telephone call if you need a modification. 

Halloween doesn’t have to be a source of conflict. With a little planning and cooperation, parents can create happy, stress-free memories their children will cherish.