What to Bring + Questions to Ask

Scheduling a divorce consultation can feel overwhelming, especially if you are not sure what comes next. A little preparation can help you make the most of the meeting and leave with a clearer plan. You do not need every document to be perfectly organized. Bring what you have, be honest about what you do not know, and focus on getting answers you can act on.

This article is for general informational purposes and is not legal advice.

What to Do Before the Meeting

Take 10 minutes to write down:

• Your goal: Are you exploring options, ready to file, or responding to something already filed?
• Your biggest concerns: children, housing, money, safety, timing
• A quick timeline: marriage date, separation date (if any), major events that matter

If you have children, outline your current weekly routine (school drop-offs, overnights, activities). Even a simple note is useful.

What to Bring

Bring whatever is easy to access. Screenshots are fine. If you can only bring a few items, focus on income, accounts, and anything related to children.

Basic info

• Full names and birthdates for you, your spouse, and your children
• Current living arrangements (who lives where)

Income

• Recent pay stubs
• Most recent tax return (plus W-2/1099s if available)

Accounts, assets, debts

• Bank statements (checking and savings)
• Retirement accounts (401(k), IRA)
• Credit card statements
• Mortgage statement or rent amount
• Car loan or student loan statements (if applicable)

Children

• Childcare and school costs
• Any existing court orders or parenting agreements (if they exist)

If anything has been filed

• Copies of any court paperwork you have received or filed

If your spouse controls the finances, tell your attorney. That is common, and it changes what documents to request first.

What to Avoid Doing

Try not to make big moves before you get legal advice, especially if emotions are high. In general, avoid:

• Posting or venting on social media
• Using children to deliver messages
• Emptying accounts or taking property “just in case” without guidance

If you are worried about money being moved or safety issues, raise it during the consultation right away.

Questions to Ask

These questions help you understand the process and what your next steps should be.

Process

• What are the main steps in a Massachusetts divorce?
• What is a typical timeline for a case like mine?
• What can be handled by agreement vs court?

Parenting (if you have children)

• What kind of schedule is realistic in my situation?
• How do temporary parenting plans usually work while the case is pending?
• What should I document if conflict increases?

Money

• How is child support typically determined?
• Is alimony likely in my situation?
• How are assets and debts divided in Massachusetts?
• What are common options for the house?

Practical next steps

• What should I do in the next two weeks?
• What documents should I gather first?
• What should I avoid doing or saying?

Fees

• How do your fees work, and what affects total cost?
• How can I keep the process efficient?

Leaving the Consultation With a Plan

Before you end the meeting, make sure you have:

• A clear list of next steps
• A short document checklist tailored to your situation
• A better understanding of what timing and outcomes may look like

If you’re considering divorce or a custody matter in Massachusetts, Fleischer Law Solutions is here to help you understand your options and take the next step with confidence. Contact our office to schedule a confidential consultation and get guidance tailored to your family, finances, and goals.